Comments on: Keep your money, honey! https://blogs.dw.com/womentalkonline/2012/09/21/keep-your-money-honey/ Women blog for women Wed, 10 Oct 2012 18:19:47 +0000 hourly 1 By: Saloni Sinha Mishra https://blogs.dw.com/womentalkonline/2012/09/21/keep-your-money-honey/#comment-6561 Mon, 08 Oct 2012 10:09:19 +0000 http://blogs.dw.com/womentalkonline/?p=1787#comment-6561 Loved the way you narrated it. Found a nice blog after a long time.

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By: Jhankar Malhotra https://blogs.dw.com/womentalkonline/2012/09/21/keep-your-money-honey/#comment-6559 Mon, 08 Oct 2012 10:07:20 +0000 http://blogs.dw.com/womentalkonline/?p=1787#comment-6559 First of all congrats Ms. Mukherjee for illuminating the issue in a very judicious way. I personally agree if wages are paid to the wife she no longer remains the wife- she turns into a slave, a prostitute an nurse and the like!

@ fight censor: The issue that this blog tried to address is on the new age proposed bill on paying wages to the wife, that too from the husband. My dear friend, the fact that you have highlighted is about the BPL families. Now you tell me the point how much and what amount should a poor husband devote to his wife knowing there are like 4-5 children and considering the effort and pain that the wife undergoes. I agree with you that most men from the BPL strata spend their hard earned money on liquor, but formulating a law and asking him to hand over the entire or part to his wide as her salary will not help his bad habits. Instead of paying salaries to wife it should be mandated that she gets proper legal and societal help when her husband cheats on her. If a drunkard husband start paying his wife for her work, he will very likely continue his weird boosing habit and will offcourse take a bad toll on her, knowing that he pays her! Please rethink your point. Our soceity needs to be strong enough, the laws for domestic violence and social security should be made more enforceable, rather than eyewashing all with a new proposed law. You are right to point out that the new bill is a target to win the BPL vote bank!!

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By: Simran Patel https://blogs.dw.com/womentalkonline/2012/09/21/keep-your-money-honey/#comment-5969 Tue, 02 Oct 2012 12:12:09 +0000 http://blogs.dw.com/womentalkonline/?p=1787#comment-5969 I just could not resist commenting at the end. You have explained the matter very lucidly, leaving no room for doubtness in the minds of both the Indian men and women. Just loved it. your views are very rational. Wish people start thinking alike. After reading your this post am really glad that I found a good page to get rational views on chosen subjects.

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By: Fight Censor https://blogs.dw.com/womentalkonline/2012/09/21/keep-your-money-honey/#comment-5757 Fri, 28 Sep 2012 18:41:17 +0000 http://blogs.dw.com/womentalkonline/?p=1787#comment-5757 India, traditionally has had a patriarchal model and with my understanding of the country, the matriarchal model does exist but very rarely. Now it is true that the Indian women have come out of the patriarchal moulds of the society, but we have to understand that a good part of the country still lives by the age old model, that of men working and the women managing the households. And even if we look at the cinema from yesteryears, we see men working hard and coming home and handing over the money to the women, not that I subscribe to that, but there are men and yes they do exist who are rather unaware of the ground realities of running a household and thus kind of keep a tight hold on the funds and the poor women in this case have to look to other avenues for help, such as seeking help from her own family. Now these men typically exist in below poverty line families, lower middle class or perhaps the middle class of a society, often addicted to drinking or drugs they tend to stay aloof. Yes at the face of it, the proposed legislation does look like a joke and seems to poke fun at women, but when we dive deeper it does look good. We don’t know the finer details of it, but I am sure that it would indeed induce some fiscal discipline particularly with regards to men with somewhat PIIGS like spendthrift tendencies.

Hence, you got it all wrong Ms. Mukherjee, to further prove that our position is somewhat correct, here’s a report that a friend from BBC filed today, this has been rather customary in a much more ‘evolved’ society such as Japan, where not just 10 or 20 percent is dedicated to the household but the man gives all of his salary to his wife, who then decides how much she can spare for man and his pocket money: “Japanese wives controlling the family purse strings.”

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By: Sumana Saha https://blogs.dw.com/womentalkonline/2012/09/21/keep-your-money-honey/#comment-5423 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 10:33:32 +0000 http://blogs.dw.com/womentalkonline/?p=1787#comment-5423 I totally agree with you. If there is a need to recognize a housewife’s efforts and up her moral spirit, give her peace, educate her if she is stil illiterate, help her when she needs help against domestic violence and stop that thing first. If this bill comes in force, some greedy and selfish husbands who love to enjoy their share of freedom on liquor will leave no room for violence unturned for the lady of the house! Good that young women like you are reacting to this kind of a proposed bill.

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By: Sharmistha Nath https://blogs.dw.com/womentalkonline/2012/09/21/keep-your-money-honey/#comment-5421 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 10:12:46 +0000 http://blogs.dw.com/womentalkonline/?p=1787#comment-5421 This is not fair, as a woman how can you write that the law makes no sense.. If a housewife works all day and manages the house and nobody recognizes her effort, this means she is deprived. When she is paid, it means her efforts are recognised and she is in other way also contributing for her family. She can use the money decisively. And we all do work for our house for some motif or purpose, you cannot say it is all love n care that one does for a family. Strongly disagree,,, this bill should come in shape.. and just not 10-20 percent of the husband’s salary, it should be 40-50 percent of his salary that should be booked with the wife.

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By: Daisy Fernandez https://blogs.dw.com/womentalkonline/2012/09/21/keep-your-money-honey/#comment-5237 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 10:05:26 +0000 http://blogs.dw.com/womentalkonline/?p=1787#comment-5237 Loved your piece.. Totally agree with you..

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